Deliciously Naughty

Breaking Up With Our Therapist

So recently Sexyhusband and I broke up with our couples counselor.  It wasn't an easy decision to make and it was far more my choice than Sexyhusband's, but once I was really unhappy, it was the right course of action to end the relationship.

Something our counselor said early on really bothered me, and I think was one of the biggest reasons that I became dissatisfied with our relationship with him.  He stated that he didn't think the way we'd set up our relationship was realistic (that SH works and I'm home with the Little Mistress).  Without going into detail, I will just say that we are lucky enough that from a financial perspective it does.  I certainly wouldn't mind going back to work in the future...in fact, I actively want to, but there are many reasons that it doesn't make sense at the moment.  I felt like there were many points where that opinion colored the advice he'd give us.

The second issue was that he kept pushing for changes that one or both of us were unwilling to make.  Sure, I'd LOVE it if SH got up early on the weekends and gave the LM and myself more time.  I would genuflect to the universe if he did it.  But to be fair, he gets something like 5 hours of sleep from Sunday night through Thursday night.  In his position if anyone tried to wake me before noon at the earliest on the weekend, there would be violence.  So I grudgingly understand where SH is coming from on that. 

The third is that there were several occasions where the session made a bad thing worse.  In one case explosively worse when if we hadn't had a session, we would have stepped away and been better able to handle the disagreement or whatever far better than what happened in the session which was to in essence push each other buttons far more, making the fight bigger.

So in the end, he was the wrong person to work with.  He had good intentions and good insights, but the relationship did not work. 

Obviously this doesn't mean we're dumb enough to think we're cured.  We need to find someone new, who Skypes (there are dr/patient confidentiality issues in our home country), who is open to and familiar with open relationships and BDSM and who understands and works with the nonnegotiables in our relationship. 

Back to square one.

Wanton Wednesday-- My Anniversary Weekend Edition (Part 2)

5 random Tuesday bits

1--In a few weeks time we will have some visitors and then everyone will be off to Phuket for some sandy (and hopefully naughty fun).  I've pitched a feature to Carnal Nation, so hopefully you'll be reading about it there. 

2--May I just share that recently as we've begun the readying process for toilet training the Little Mistress that there is more scat talk in my home than I ever imagined there would be.

3--doing a final polish on my next column--I'll be telling my friend G's journey towards motherhood with her husband S, who is trans.  I'm hoping to shine a light on something I don't hear much talk about in the LGBT community--the infertility issues and how that impacts your life.

4-I'm hoping to write a longer post later, but Sexyhusband and I broke up with our couples counselor and are now searching out a new one who Skypes (the country we live in has some patient confidentiality issues we're concerned about, so we prefer an American therapist).

5-Recently on a date Sexyhusband and I popped into a sex shop and were kind of horrified by the lube prices.  Imagine our shock to find astroglide at a local pharmacy for only a 100% markup instead of 3-500% markup. 

Wordless Wednesday--My Anniversary Weekend Edition (part 1)

New Article at Carnal Nation

My newest article at Carnal Nation is up.

Go read Number Two? Baby Lust and Logic and then come back to comment.

Anniversary

Several years ago Sexyhusband was crazy enough to go through with the wedding...

Thanks babe.

Here's hoping our rough patch is finally almost over...and that we will continue to strengthen and renew our love.

Wordless Wednesday-Striptease--My tits (NSFW)

Wordless Wednesday

I'd love to hear from any guys about what the experience of getting a boyzillian is really like.

Sorry for the reflections...couldn't find an angle that didn't include them.

You know you're not in the US anymore when...

You see a sex shop using Disney font...

Considering their record for viciously going after daycares that used poorly rendered Disney characters without paying a licensing fee, I can only imagine the level of *headexplode* that would go on over use of their signature font being used by a sex shop. 

Personally I think they're overlooking a certain market...after all, Condi the Condom or whatever they want to call him is pretty adorable.  Think of all the safe sex he could enourage, and the branding and marketing opportunities they're missing out on!  It's not like there isn't a thriving (and slightly disturbing at times) market for Disney porn...they could embrace it and makes tons more money...that way once we've outgrown certain movies and product lines, they could grab us with *other* movies and Disney lines of condoms, lingerie (what would Cinderella wear?), lube, sex toys (what happens if you rub the genies lamp?), and other assorted goodies (you *know* Jafar was a top...what would he have in his goodie box).

Hell, they're already doing Disney dream weddings where you get to wear the EXACT REPLICA dress of your favorite Disney Princess.  Why not the wedding night?

I'm just sayin'....