After leaving Wicked Faire, Sexyhusband and I headed into NYC to see Goldslut and her C. We met up at a BBQ joint that's a particular favorite of mine, and sat down to dinner. Sexyhusband and I had the privilege of meeting Goldslut last fall, and had found her to be lovely in mind and body. I'm pleased to report that her C is just as delicious as she is.
One of the things that is difficult for me is a lack of local people who I can be completely honest with when it comes to the less conventional parts of my life. Having an evening where Sexyhusband and I didn't have to hide those less conventional parts was intoxicating. The conversation included a wide variety of topics and it was nice to be with a couple who intrinsically "get" it.
I have already said this to Goldslut and C, but I want to share this with my readers as well...they have what Sexyhusband and I aspire to. They are a great couple--interesting people both separately and together, obviously in love (adorably so), and they've found the right balance for them. Sexyhusband and I are still finding our balance in some ways, and exploring the less traditional marital path has led to a few bumps and bruises along the way. Goldslut and C have sailed the occasionally treacherous waters that Sexyhusband and I are setting out upon, and it's comforting to see a couple come out the other side stronger for it, especially when society says that we're heading straight for divorce court.
However, what they most deserve credit for is convincing me to agree to go to Dark Odyssey. It's not that I didn't mostly want to go...it's that I'm greedy. Since Sexyhusband and I are trying for a baby, I have exiled men from my vagina. Sure, there's a universe of things I could do that aren't penetration, but I'm a penetration slut, and without the potential for it, my general attitude towards DO is that Sexyhusband would be putting me in the middle of a candy store (or a room full free Broadway tickets) and then telling me I couldn't touch anything.
The first argument they made is that they would be there. I don't know that I'd be willing to go to DO if I didn't know anyone. For all that I'm sexy and bold here, I'm quiet and awkward and socially inept in large groups of people I don't know and generally perceive as cooler than I. C said it best when he said something to the effect of "Put me in a room and tell me to take off my clothes and have sex? Sure. Put me in the same room and ask me to make fully clothed conversation with those same people? I hate that." I feel the exact same way. Knowing that they'd be there was a big draw.
The second argument they made was about the classes. The inner geek in me gets soaking wet at the idea of marrying kink and academia, two of my favorite passions. As I've mentioned before, I have a lot of learning to do to safely explore some of the kink I'm interested in, and there's always room for improvement to become a better lover. The classes by themselves are probably worth the price of admission.
The thing that made me give up my final reservations was flirting a bit. Goldslut promised to bring her pink sparkly riding crop, and said she didn't mind if I followed her shiny thing around like a mesmerized kitten. C mentioned he was bringing a kilt, and as my repeated sex with an ex after we'd broken up proved, I go weak-kneed for a man in a kilt. The truth is that I probably didn't need those last two pieces of incentive, but they didn't hurt (and no taking it back, Goldslut and C!).
By the time some of my more vanilla friends arrived, I'd acceded and we'd decided to go. The room is booked, and we are excited to be going. If any readers are also attending, drop me a private line and we can trade profile names.
One thing I must admit to publicly is that Goldslut and C are much better at transitioning than Sexyhusband and I (especially I) are. After my friends arrived, I still couldn't keep myself from occasionally flirting with C (and Goldslut). One of the many lessons we can learn from the Jedi Masters.
"interesting people both separately and together, obviously in love (adorably so)"
Are you SURE you aren't referring to SH and yourself?????!!!! You two so obviously care deeply for each other and the love you two share was quite obvious at Faire.
Posted by: musns | February 21, 2008 at 11:14 PM
*blush*
Thank you for the lovely compliment, Musings m'dear.
Posted by: Deliciously Naughty | February 22, 2008 at 12:52 AM