Losing my virginity...with canes WF #4

As my Valentine's Day Present to all of you, I'll share the story of volunteering during a ProDomme Demo this past weekend at Wicked Faire. 

After spending the day as a school girl, I put on normal clothes to go out to dinner.  Upon returning to the hotel and seeing all the fairies and corsets and other sexy geeks wandering around, I couldn't wait to change back into sexier clothes myself.  We knew we wanted to see the ProDomme Demo-we'd missed the night before because we were at the burlesque show.  All things considered, I decided that it was the perfect time to wear my other corset.   Musings helped me lace into my red corset and black leather kilt.  This was, incidentally, the corset that Musings had fixed for me last summer/fall after I ripped it in San Francisco.    

When we arrived downstairs, there was a trivia game going on.  It was men against women, and when the opportunity presented itself, Sexyhusband and I joined in.  This proved to be a bad move on my part, as the women had been winning, but Sexyhusband was an unstoppable addition to the men's team.  The penalty for losing the contest was that I, along with the other women, had to drop to my knees and cry out "Boys are better than girls."  It was, of  course, all in good fun, and all the competitors were awarded cd's for competing.

We had to wait a little while when the hotel finally got around to switching out the stage they were supposed to have changed six hours previously.  At one point as they were doing so, a local cop came into the room.  The Lady's submissive flirted a little with him, and if I'm remembering correctly asked him if he was going to stay for the show.  The cop looked perturbed, and left.  I laughed, and gave her a high five.

However, the wait was well worth it as Lady Arielle took the stage.

The Lady is  quite lovely, with generous breasts that I envy (especially when given the additional boost of a black leather corset) and long hair in the exact shade of red I have paid countless dollars to try to achieve (and failed to do so).  She spoke for a bit about kink and BDSM before asking for a volunteer.

I've always been the kid who's hand goes up first in a class, and it's no surprise that that particular personality quirk held true at the demo.  I had the pleasure of being the Lady's first demo subject. 

I stepped on stage and the Lady did a check to see how suggestible I was (very).  She had be stand with my front to a wall, my arms outstretched as if chained to the wall, my legs slightly open to better help support my body.  I will confess that most of the things she did to me passed in a blur of pleasure, so my descriptions are incomplete.

I do remember that she started by lightly scratching my back above my corset and seemed amused to find that I was already marked from the bear claws.  She amused herself by playing tic-tac-toe on my back, which felt wonderful. 

Then she started to warm me up for real, lightly slapping my back, over my shoulder blades.  Part of what marks her as such a talented professional is that without having sat down and talked in depth about how I move into sub space and what I enjoy, she was able to calibrate her slaps to my tastes.  Her hand would smack into my skin, creating a delightful sting of pleasure, but would then continue to press there for a moment, allowing the sting to soften into a hot sensation.

I know she used a few other implements on my back as well.  I asked Sexyhusband and he says he thinks the Lady used a flogger and perhaps two paddles (one wooden with holes, he tells me).  What I recall is alternating waves of pain and pleasure as she tempered the blows with tickles from a feather and other soft textures rubbing over my skin.

Then she asked if I'd ever been caned.

What you must understand is that I have a fascination with canes.  I find them fearsome and alluring all at once.  Maybe it's the idea of the British Schoolmistress caning the bad boy?  Whatever it is, I have spent a great deal of time over the years in various Sex Shops staring at canes, but never purchasing one.  I'm very aware that they can do severe damage if used too hard, and Sexyhusband and I have a long ways to go when it comes to technique and accuracy with just floggers (something I'm hoping to take classes on at Dark Odyssey), so the opportunity to safely play with them had never arose....before now.

"No," I breathed.

Before I have finished processing that I'm going to lose my caning virginity (who knew I had any virginity left to lose?) there were light taps going up and down my the backs of my shoulders.  The taps increased in intensity and I recall the Lady saying that she liked to make angel wing patterns with the cane.  Sexyhusband says she then spent time talking down canes-that they break easily, that they're hard to learn to use, but I don't believe him.  It was just too wonderful to feel that warmth as she moved the cane strikes up and down.

I'm not 100% certain, but I believe the cane was the last implement the Lady used on me.  Regardless, the very last thing she did was take out a spray bottle and spray my back---with rubbing alcohol.  The initial sting caused me to gasp, but as she began to fan my back, my gasp turned into a moan of pleasure.

The Lady then had me turn to face her, and she cupped my face and told me that I'd done well, leading me out of sub space and back to myself. 

Even so, I was still lost enough in the pleasure that I almost tripped getting back to my seat.

While I didn't orgasm, the feeling I had as the Lady dismissed me was exactly the same as I get just post orgasm.  My body felt lighter than air, I was extremely relaxed, and a little sleepy from the endorphin high.

Although my time was done, the Lady was just getting started.  Her next volunteer was a guy, and she had him take off his shirt and pants.  She then tucked the bottoms of his shorts into his waistband so that it created a thong effect.  I sat with my head on Sexyhusband's shoulder and my mind floating off in space and observed quietly as the Lady used all manner of flogger on her subject.

Perhaps most interesting was a tube, made of some kind of hollow rubber that made a THUD sound when it landed.  If I heard her correctly, she either made it herself, or someone made it for her enjoyment.  I wondered if it was heavy, and contemplated both wielding it and having it used on me.

The Lady also used ice on her second subject.  Personally, I became a fan of ice play when an ex put one of those cylinders you freeze and then put in a water bottle to keep your water cold in the summer up my pussy.  Watching the Lady,  I shivered with pleasure contemplating what her subject was feeling as she lay a piece of ice at the top of his ass where the waistband of his boxers would hold it, and as the heat of his body melted it, icy cold must surely have been flowing down the crack of his ass.

The third person that the Lady showcased was an adorable well endowed girl with a gorgeous smile.  She was tied to the chair with the help of the Lady's submissive, Brielle.  Then the girl's cleavage was adorned with dripping wax.  Even better than her gasps and moans was the frisson of pleasure I felt when the Lady uncased a dagger she'd bought at the Faire to remove the wax.

A smartass was volunteered for a birthday spanking, and we all learned that he wore his kilt properly (that is to say with nothing underneath it).  With Brielle's help, the Lady put him over her lap and gave him a birthday spanking he'll never forget.

The fifth and final "official" volunteer of the night was Sexyhusband, although it's more accurate to say I volunteered Sexyhusband for the pleasure rather than he volunteering himself.  However, he was fine with going up and getting his turn.  I watched the Lady work him over with a variety of floggers, and as she did I mentally took notes about Sexyhusband's reactions.  I learned that a moan of pain doesn't necessarily mean stop for him, when I'm pretty sure I usually back off when we play, and that his capacity for pain/pleasure is further beyond what I understood it to be.  This would come in handy later that night.  I was also fascinated by the variety of floggers that the Lady used on him, and am very interested in expanding our collection to include several more.

We stayed for awhile after the demo was over.  I talked to Brielle, who was an absolute sweetie.  She had some recommendations for websites for me to check out, as Sexyhusband and I are looking for resources on how to improve/expand our BDSM play.  We also made a point of buying the Lady's DVD, which I'll be reviewing here as soon as we get a chance to watch it.

The Lady herself was also a lovely person to talk to.  We thanked her for the chance to participate, and exchanged a hug and cheek kiss.

Sexyhusband and I went straight to our room because given five more minutes, we would've been going at it right in the demo room, which would have been against convention rules.  Before we started our own private scene, I asked Sexyhusband to take a few pictures so that I could remember my first experience with a professional Domme.  Then came some intensely private and primal sex following a scene of our own making, which I'll talk about tomorrow.

Before you look at the pictures, a few disclaimers.  The Lady doesn't actually want to/like to leave permanent marks.  I, however, have ridiculously fair skin and a propensity to bruise when people breathe on me too hard.  The results below are NOT typical.  Personally, though, I consider them badges of honor, which is why I'm sharing.  The first picture is my left shoulder, which is where I ended up with more of a mark, and the second is my right which had less of a mark.  Both bruises faded by Wednesday.

In the end, perhaps what was most interesting about the demo and our individual experiences with the Lady Arielle were what we each took away from it; a deeper understanding of our own responses to BDSM and pleasure.  Sexyhusband enjoyed his time as a volunteer, but did not find it overly sexual--he would have needed nipple stimulation or other sexual stimulation in order to have found it sexually pleasurable.  I, on the other hand, practically had orgasmed from my time as a volunteer and probably would have had my full back and my ass been used for punishment.  As we experiment and explore our dominant and submissive sides, this is the kind of information that will lead to better sessions and a deeper understanding of how our sexuality works.

Thank you for an incredibly memorable and positive experience, Lady Arielle, and if I'm ever lucky enough to take another workshop/demo with you again, I will jump at the chance.

Comments

[Sexyhusband]

To be precise, it isn't that I didn't find it sexually pleasurable at all - I definitely developed a buzz I felt later in the night ;) But, from what you said, our responses weren't really comparable. You were wet and on the edge of orgasm. I was mildly aroused and not hard. As I recall, I found watching you get worked over more arousing than getting worked over myself.

I agree that was good to learn about our responses, though. It was the first time I'd been beaten without sexual stimulation, so I ended up confirming my suspicions about how I am wired.

[musns]

She (Lady Arielle) distinctly voiced complaints about canes, that they were flimsy and broke easily. She did leave some lovely bruises on you and I hope you wore them proudly.

The rubber tubing thing she used on that young man, was indeed "custom made" as she proclaimed proudly after showing it to the audience.

More importantly, I'm saddened that I left when SH was up on stage - I was so flippin' hot and tired of sitting in the corset and platform shoes that I had to go outside, cool off and smoke (that awful habit of mine).

Next time, and there WILL be a next time I intend to volunteer. I wanted to be the wax (lol, I almost said sex victim-wonder where my mind is) victim, but she asked for someone who was experienced and sadly, my experiences are quite lacking in the bdsm department.

[Deliciously Naughty]

Musings...I hope you enjoyed the video I posted of Sexyhusband getting his licks :)